We often describe it as a feeling we have for another person, but is it really the truth?

What happens when the feelings change or get hurt?

Does love then die and do we let the relationship go and move on?

Is love just a feeling we have or is there more to it?

How do we develop a love that stands in the face of adversity and stays with us into the twilight years of our lives?

In the beginning of a love relationship we go through an infatuation stage which is characterised by the good feelings we have towards our partner. We tend to overlook or not even acknowledge the faults on their part and the outlook is rosy. As the relationship moves into the next phase of love the emphasis must move away from feelings alone if it is to develop and grow. For love to continue to grow we must begin to focus on a series of actions which eventually become second nature to us as this love strengthens and builds.

When we love someone:

- we learn to become patient with...

Once upon a time, a man called Adam became aware of a feeling of loneliness. He recognised this feeling was coming from his growing need for companionship. This led the man to re-assess his whole life. He decided he didn’t want to be single anymore and desperately wanted someone of his own kind with whom he could share true intimacy.

The kindly Creator understood this need and separated from Adam an opposite, but complementary version of the man, and a wonderful woman called Eve entered his life. What resulted was the solution to one of mankind’s most important needs – an intimate relationship to meet the need for LOVE & CONNECTION

Whether we believe in this version of the birth of human relationship, or not, there is no denying that the desire for LOVE & CONNECTION is still one of our greatest needs.

And the solution to satisfying the need for LOVE & CONNECTION is still best found in an intimate and committed relationship.

But the challenge of building an intimate relationship and...

In our experience we have identified 4 distinct phases that can be present in the development of love.

Note: In the search for a loving relationship, not everyone experiences all 4 stages, nor do they have to.

However it is vital that any person seriously pursuing a permanent, monogamous, loving partnership, especially a marriage, knows which phase of love both they and their partner are in. This helps them to not only to evaluate the state of their relationship but also to make better decisions regarding their future together.

There are stages of progression in a LOVING RELATIONSHIP.

Stage 1 : Infatuation – the FAIRYTALE phase

Where we can experience:

- intense physical/mental/sexual attraction

- what we think is perfection– “anyone who makes me feel this good must be perfect and perfect for me”

- the “I wish this could last forever” feeling

- the “I want to be with you all the time” desire

- the “love-drug”

The purpose : To...